When you have thought through it, really gotten into the details and the pros, cons and weighing options you should say it. Start with a controlled debate. Set the rules. Outline the guidelines.

Then again, sometimes the spur of the moment just gets you. You can’t help it. No deep thoughts; it might happen to be a casual comment. But, once you say it, you really can’t take it back. It is out there and no matter how it was intended you cannot control how it was heard, internalized and the impact of the words.

~ Dawn aka Hat Girl