It it better to be gentle or effective?

Hard to say, right? Depends on the situation.

Are you trying to share bad news, or just trying to get the point across?

Do you care greatly about the person, or barely know them?

Are you cleaning a baby’s face, covered in sticky foods and it is time for a nap?

Do you know how closely tied the person is to the solution they presented – like how long and hard they worked on it, or whether it was inspired by their child?

Are you trying to keep them positive, or fix the problem?

Do you have an option to do both?

Only you know the best course of action and can make the decision that is right for you and the situation.

It isn’t easy, but perhaps, instead of choosing to be gentle or effective, do both and you will have much more appreciation for your time, effort and careful consideration of their heart.

~ Dawn aka Hat Girl